Human Design for Partnerships
What if you had a blueprint for creating a profound partnership?
Partners and Human Design - Audio
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How Partners Benefit From Human Design
Partnerships come in many forms: business partnerships, work team mates, marriages, friendships, and romantic relationships. People generally come together in partnerships for very good reasons. There is some kind of ‘fit’ that is experienced that initiates the relationship and propels it forward. This chemistry fuels the partnership through the early stages of the relationship. But usually, at some point, the ways that two individuals are different, the ways that don’t ‘fit’, become more obvious. Here is when the differences either get understood, seen as a strength and worked with in a positive manner, or the differences become the focus of stress in the partnership, where we try to get the partner to change, we make them wrong, we over-personalize the differences and turn them into issues.
Core Assumptions – Healthy Partnerships
We all have certain assumptions, perspectives and definitions about what makes an effective, high quality partnership. Here are the core assumptions that I hold that guide how I coach my clients.
A quality partnership:
- Seeks collaboration
- Understands that each partner is unique
- Understands that there is strength in differences as well as similarities
- Wants the other to have what they need to be successful
- Is more interested in what is actually true than how they wish it could be
What Would It Mean To You If…..
- Your partnership was completely productive and satisfying
- Your partnership was fully collaborative
- Leveraged your differences as well as your similarities
- Had a constructive way to work through conflict
- You understood what your partner needed in order to make decisions
- You got what YOU needed out of your partnership
- You understood why your partner does/approaches things the way they do
- Your skills, gifts and qualities got seen and appreciated
A Case Study
Case Study – Married Partners, J and P.
J and P are have been married for over 20 years. When looking at their designs, there are many obvious things that confirm why they were attracted to each other and pursued their relationship. Both are very oriented towards serving their community and society at large. They both are creative and love to make continuous improvements to their home and property. (It is incredibly beautiful.) They are both very heartfelt people. However, there are aspects of their designs that are on opposite ends of the spectrum. J needs lots of time to process decisions. He really needs to process things through a number of internal filters and centers of internal wisdom. P gets flashes of insight and when those flashes occur, she wants to act on them immediately. And she wants to engage with J on the decision-making around those flashes of insight immediately as well.
Can you see where this is leading? J has not even had time to process the first request before the next 10 are queued up by P wanting to talk about them. They have completely opposite decision-making processes and tempos. Both styles are beautiful and correct. They both work and produce high quality choices that are right for the individual.
Learning about their Designs has helped them both to understand this dynamic and take the frustration out of their relationship. In this case, it really isn’t possible for J to speed up. It would not work for him and he would make poor decisions. Once P realized that she was asking him to go against his nature AND that he wasn’t doing this ‘on purpose’, that he wasn’t procrastinating, she could change her behavior and let go of inappropriate expectations.
Human Design allows partners to stop blaming and start understanding.
Human Design Blueprint Components
Our work together centers around the 4 Fundamental Themes in your human designs and comes up with strategies for integrating each person’s needs and strength into the partnership.
Your Energy Levels: Each design influences how much energy a person has and how consistent that energy is throughout the day. I have a client that has a high-energy husband that comes home from work and tackles huge projects on their property at night. Her design requires her to rest before she gets tired, however she is mentally very busy. So she rests her body but keeps contributing by letting her mind tackle creative projects.
Your Social Orientations: Designs may be more narrowly focused on the needs of society, the tribe, the individual or the self. Or they may be a blend. When one of my clients understood that while he was focused on the good of society, his wife was more focused on the good of the tribe, the family. Just understanding this reduced confusion in their relationship.
Your Decision-Making Strategy and Tempo: Each design makes decisions differently and on different timelines. See the story about P and J on this page for a detailed example.
Moving Through Life: When partners have different approaches for moving through life AND they understand what that entails, now they can be supportive in more concrete ways. In my case, I need information rather than questions to help me move forward. Training my partners what works for me, what I need, makes it much easier for me to contribute to the whole.
“The Whole Is Greater Than The Sum of Its Parts.” Aristotle
This is certainly true when two or more people come together from the perspective of their Human Designs. When you are in connection with another person (or persons) the energy is additive. It combines. You have access to expanded qualities and gifts.
Who Are You Together
Another major component of the Human Design Blueprint describes the qualities and gifts that are created in the combination of your energies that can now be leveraged intentionally.
How We Work Together
How We Work Together
Step 1: Let’s have a quick conversation to get your questions answered and to confirm this work is a good fit for you. Give me a call, text or fill out my contact form.
Step 2: Our work starts with a 75-minute “Introductory Human Design Reading for Your Partnership” where I will share with you the highlights of your designs, the strengths and naturally easy qualities of your partnership, and go over aspects of your designs and style that function differently and are potential causes of conflict. We end this session assessing the accuracy of the reading and the benefit of incorporating the guidelines of your designs into your daily interactions. This session is recorded and sent to you. The cost of the Introductory Reading is $225.
Step 3: Learn to integrate your Human Design guidelines into your daily interactions with a 5-session “Create Your Partnership Blueprint”. During the 5 sessions we go deep into the dynamics of your partnership looking at the main aspects of your designs. During each session we discuss one topic thoroughly and how it plays out in your relationship as either a source of strength or an area of potential conflict. I outline concepts, strategies and exercises for you to practice in between sessions. At the beginning of each session we review your homework from the previous session to make sure
As each session unfolds, you fill out your Human Design Blueprint Workbook. Your Blueprint plus the session recordings provide you with invaluable tools and information that can enhance your partnership going forward.
Each of the 5 sessions lasts for 75 minutes and are recorded. A link to download the recording is sent to you immediately following each session. Cathy is available for support and to answer questions between sessions via text or email. The cost for the 5-Session “Create Your Partnership Blueprint” is $1125.